Me and my friend had been chatting one morning about why teenagers struggle with certain feelings, emotions and why this results in different behaviors. We chatted between us about why we think this must be, and that there must be something going on in the brain to produce these behaviors at this age of development. We were really intrigue to know more. Then that afternoon I was at home checking my e-mails, when an e-mail from the school came through. It was inviting all parents along to register to attend a talking to teens parenting course. I quickly messaged my friend and asked her if she fancied registering for this. It sounded like it was going to answer some of the questions we had been chatting about.
The course was being run by a Family Support Worker of the school, and a social worker from our area. I was pretty nervous when I first arrived, as I am not very comfortable with talking in front of lots of people who I don’t know. The chairs were all set up in a circle, with the ladies running the course at the front. Me and my friend had joked about having to answer questions like ‘What do you hope to gain from attending this course?’ and all those lovely awkward questions that you have to answer on the spot! There it was, written up on the white board, ready for us to answer, and about 16 chairs waiting for people to fill! My worst nightmare!!
The first meeting was getting to know each other, why we were there and story telling. I didn’t feel I was gaining what I wanted from this course, however it was a 4 week course and I was going to see it all through. However from week 2 was super interesting, we were told all about the brain and how it functioned. The changes that the brain goes through when puberty hits and throughout, and the emotions that are produced by this. We were shown this video on YouTube and everything clicked once you listened to this. This lady explains everything so well, and I know understand that teenagers cannot help some things, and we must try to help them when they are going through this stage.
I hope once you have watched this you will understand why, and how, and maybe we should give them a little more understanding when they have made a rubbish decision!
We came away from our course with lots of new knowledge, and understanding. Ways we can cope with the teenage years, and ways we can help our teenagers too.
I spoke to a few Mums about this course I was doing and I got a mixed bag of responses. Some of them were really interested to know more, to find out what I thought and how they could do it too. Others shrugged it off and said they didn’t need it, or didn’t think it would be any good. That’s fine, everyone has their opinion and I don’t think everyone should do the course if they don’t want to.
However when I saw the e-mail come around saying they were going to run it again I was really pleased. Pleased that more parents were going to get the chance to learn some more information about teens, and gain the knowledge that we did. My son is only 12 at the moment, and we haven’t hit that stereotypical ‘teenage’ years, so I wasn’t attending this course asking for immediate help. I wanted to gain some knowledge and tips for when we do hit certain stages with him. I’m not even saying he is going to be a problem, but I am certainly not saying he is going to be a breeze! Who knows what he will be like. At least now I have some tips under my belt for future situations, instead of making mistakes and than having to then undo the problems it has caused.
Then I heard from a friend of mine who signed up to the next course, that it was cancelled due to not enough people signing up! Now lets put this to numbers…..my sons secondary school has over 1900 pupils attending, OK some will be siblings, some won’t be able to go due to work and some will be nearing the end of school age, however that still leaves A LOT of parents that have chosen not to attend this course. There was 16 of us on the first course!
So it got me thinking ‘Why don’t we like learning to be a better parent?’ Why did nobody want to attend this course to learn? Do they think they have got it sorted as a parent? Are they scared that they are admitting they can’t cope? Do they think they are doing wrong? Or was it because it was in public?
I think we’re all great at taking to Google and asking questions on things. When we are pregnant we ask people tips and things we should and shouldn’t do. However when it comes to parenting we are all meant to know what were doing! Well I don’t think we ALL do?! We are all learning as we go along, and kids don’t come with a handbook.
If I was learning how to take photos, I would learn from someone else who knows what they’re doing. If I was taking a course on how to run a successful blog, I would learn and listen to someone who had succeeded. No one would frown at me for doing that, but they did at me taking a Talking To Teens course.
So why don’t we try to learn from the people who have been trained to deal with children?
I recently have been introduced to Qutee, which is a free brand new website that is encouraging users to have discussions, social interaction and generate polls on subjects that interests them. It is hosting a wide range of subjects to have discussions about, and even you can start your own discussion on a subject that you want to find out people’s opinion on.
I am joining in with the Parenting 101 hub, and generate my own discussion and I wanted to ask people their feelings on my chosen subject. I would love to hear people’s opinions on this, there’s no right answer and it’s whats right for that parent.
Would You Take A Parenting Course? Generate a discussion on why you would or wouldn’t take a parenting course. I would love it if you could join in with my discussion, and let me know what you think?
*In collaboration with Qutee